You know when you step in dogshit, and you sit down to clean your shoe with a stick and you realize just how embedded into the tread the shit has managed to get itself? And then you think to yourself, “Well fuck-all, how in the world did this happen so quickly when my shoe just barely touched the shit? How did my entire shoe get so fucked up?”
Ever met a person that did the same thing with your life?
That person may have an Iago Complex.
I will not assume all of my readers have read Othello by the very bad-ass playwright William Shakespeare. In it there is a character named Iago that is a scheming, weasley, jealous, manipulating, murdering, lying asshat. And by asshat, I mean fuckwad.
He seems to be immoral.
It turns out that he is not immoral, he is amoral. According to www.thefreedictionary.com, immoral is: [someone who acts] contrary to established moral principles, while amoral is: [someone] lacking moral sensibility; not caring about right and wrong.
An immoral person is aware of right and wrong and is choosing to do the wrong thing, while the amoral person just doesn’t give a shit. The latter lacks a conscience. DANGER!!!
It has always puzzled me when I come across these people. I just could not comprehend his/her motivation for doing the things he/she does. I mean, I make mistakes. We all do. We learn from our errors, and try to do better next time. This is normal, the base-line. But people with Iago Complex are not concerned with the same things you and I are. They always seem to be running a game with ever-changing rules. While they seem to be concerned with the greater good and doing the right things, they are running a con that benefits only themselves. Amorality.
These people will murder you via character assassination without hesitation if they believe they will benefit. You could be his/her best friend. It doesn’t matter. Amorality.
People with Iago complex are devious. These people have many fine qualities that shine above the murky waters of their intentions. These qualities help them rise to positions of prominence. They become leaders of business, civic organizations, little league, etc. And no matter where they go, they run the same devious game.
So, how do you draw these amoral cretins out of hiding?
Openly disagree with them.
They cannot abide.
Ever had a “friend” disappear when you drew a line and said “Hey, what you did really bothers me?”
Ever had a coworker fabricate something you said. For example, “Sally said you are a motherfucking assclown?!!!’
Ever had a boss call you out on behavior that he/she did and you had no part of?
They might be church leaders.
They might be the President of a corporation or of the USA.
What should you do??
You cannot win because you HAVE morals.
PS: Iago complex and NPD walk hand-in-hand.